Marriage is a sacred union, ordained by God, that calls for intentional effort and divine wisdom to thrive. In our last article, we explored the keys to building a lasting marriage—a home filled with love and joy that even the angels of heaven would delight in visiting. But creating such a harmonious bond requires more than just principles; it requires understanding, communication, and the courage to ask meaningful questions. Questions hold the power to reveal the heart, to deepen connections, and to navigate challenges with grace. In this article, we will delve into important questions that you may ask yourself and that many other people are always asking during a marriage conflict. Question one.
Which marriage partner should be the first to confess after a quarrel?
Romans 15:1
The Bible says: “We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves.” Then the answer is very obvious. The one who was in the right is the first to confess after a quarrel.
Could you suggest a rule for a meddlesome mother-in-law? (1 Thessalonians 4:11)
Yes! Be quiet and mind your own business! (See 1 Thessalonians 4:11.) In fact, this rule applies to all in-laws. Many a marriage that might have been a little heaven on earth has been changed into hell by in-laws. The duty of all in-laws is to leave the newly established home strictly alone.
My husband is a godless man, and I am trying to be a Christian. His influence is terrible. Should I divorce him? (1 Corinthians 7:12)
No! Read 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 “But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. You may need to read 1 Peter 3:1, 2. too God gives a specific answer.
When my husband displeases me, I won’t sleep with him. He says I am wrong. Am I? (1 Corinthians 7:4)
Yes! God gives a definite answer to this question in 1 Corinthians 7:4, 5. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
My wife ran off with another man. Now repentant, she wants to return home. My pastor says I should take her back, but God forbids this, doesn’t He? (Matthew 6:14)
No. No, indeed! God permits divorce for adultery, but does not command it. Forgiveness is always better and is always in order. (See Matthew 6:14,15.) Divorce will seriously mar your life and the lives of your children. Give her another chance! The golden rule (Matthew 7:12) applies here. If you and your wife will turn your lives over to Christ, He will make your marriage supremely happy. It is not too late.
What can I do? Men are always attempting familiarities with me.(1Thessalonians 5:22)
Be very careful of your conduct. God says, “Abstain from all appearance of evil.” 1 Thessalonians 5:22. Perhaps your conduct around men–a suggestive smile, immodest clothing, off-color jokes, or a “too relaxed” and comfortable attitude–encourages their advances. There is something about Christian reserve and dignity that keeps a man in his place. Christ said, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” Matthew 5:16. When Christ really shines from your life, you will have little trouble with evil men and their advances.
Can you tell me simply and plainly what God’s counsel is to one
who has fallen but is truly repentant? (John 8:11)
Long ago Christ gave a pointed and comforting answer to one who had fallen into immorality but was repentant. He said, “Go, and sin no more.” John 8:11. His counsel still applies today.
Isn’t the “innocent party” in a divorce sometimes partially guilty also? (1 Samuel 16:7)
Certainly. Sometimes the “innocent party,” by lovelessness,inattentiveness, self-righteousness, unkindness, selfishness, nagging, and downright coldness, can encourage evil thoughts and actions in his or her spouse. Sometimes the “innocent party” may be equally as guilty before God as the “guilty” one. God looks upon our motives and judges accordingly. “For the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7. Our last question is.
Does God expect me to live with a physically abusive spouse?
Physical abuse can be life-threatening and is a serious problem that demands immediate attention. The spouse and family members who have been physically abused must find a safe environment in which to live. Both husband and wife need to seek professional help through a qualified Christian marriage counselor. i hope these Biblical answers satisfy your thirsty soul about marriage.
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